Can we be happy? (Christian)?

Give God first place in your heart and in your life. The first commandment is, "Thou shall have no other gods before Me". Boyfriends come and go, but God is with us forever. Maybe you both should try talking to a Christian advisor about your relationship or for premarital councilling, since you are planning marriage, and the fear you have of losing your boyfriend. Absetinance is the best thing and how God intended for it to be until marriage. You can still have good clean fun together. I know this sounds corny, but date in groups or have a chaparone when you go out and this will help take some of the pressure off you. If someone really loves you they won't break up with you if you do something wrong. Put God first in your life, pray and read your Bible every day for guidance from Him, and respect yourself and others and you'll start to see things clearer. When something is ingrained in us growing up, it is hard to think other wise. See yourself as someone who has a lot to offer in a relationship (because you do), and if a guy can't see it, then it's his lost.